By Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino and Dr. Katie Eastman One of the hardest lessons many people learn in life is this: Not everyone who appears peaceful actually is. Some people speak softly while quietly creating chaos. Some people present themselves as kind while operating from manipulation, control, insecurity, jealousy, ego, or hidden agendas. Some people wear the language of healing, compassion, spirituality, leadership, friendship, or support almost like a costume, while und